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With Him or Against Him?

June 28th, 2012

He who is not with me is against me, and he who does not gather with me scatters.

Matthew 12:30

There is a gentleness to grace or it would not be grace. The patience of the Lord is long and His anger is slow in coming. He is forgiving and kind, “showing love to a thousand generations of those who love [Him] and keep [His] commandments” (Exod. 20:6). He knows the reality of human weakness, “He knows how we are formed, he remembers that we are dust … From everlasting to everlasting the Lord’s love is with those who fear him, and his righteousness with their children’s children” (Psalm 103:14,17). We could not have a more understanding, patient, and loving God.

But though God understands our weaknesses, He still has called us to holiness – just as He is holy. Jesus spoke plainly about moral reality and consequences of actions. We are either part of the problem or part of the solution. As we walk with God in a deepening relationship we will increasingly take on His character and a growing desire to do His will. The crossroads in this journey are many, moments when we see that the calling of God runs in a different direction from the values of the world – the narrow way of righteousness versus the wide road of unrighteousness.

A cartoon this week caught my attention. It was a four part depiction of a mother and daughter and in the first frame the mother laughs when the baby daughter says a bad word and calls it “cute.” Then as the girl grows the mother teaches her daughter to shake her booty and to dress like the pop-stars. The final frame sees the teenage daughter pregnant and the mother weeping crying, “Where did I go wrong?”

Of course, someone who was raised in a home where Christian values were consistently taught and modeled can still rebel against these and make the wrong decisions. We should not judge anyone else, for we are incapable of knowing all the details of any life. Rather my point is to draw attention to the truth in the words of Christ: we either are gathering with Him or scattering against His purposes.

So which side are you on right now, at this very moment? Where is your heart? Is it being drawn to the side of Christ, to His purposes, to His purity, and to loving others like He loved? Or are you allowing the world to distract you, to tempt you, and to tear you down? To gather with Him means not only that we uphold a high moral standard, but that we also love others with redemptive love. A high moral standard without redemptive love creates little Pharisees.

Christian Parenting, Evening Devotionals

The Integrity of the Christian Home

May 21st, 2009

I will live with integrity of heart in my house. I will not set anything godless before my eyes.

Psalm 101:2-3

 

Our thoughts are influenced through what our minds receive through our senses, especially the sense of vision. The heart must control the eyes or the eyes, and ultimately the world, will dominate the heart. As Christ said, “The eye is the lamp of the body. If your eye is good, your whole body will be full of light. But if your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness” (Matthew 6:22-23).

 

We cannot escape the influence of shameful things if we dwell on them in our thoughts. They will corrupt our values, undermine our integrity, and downgrade our devotion to God. Immediately many will think this refers mostly or only to the spread of pornography in today’s world, and though pornography certainly is a “godless” thing, it is not the only area of concern. Whatever draws us away from God is the danger and pornography is just one among many other influences, such as self-pride.

 

David, the psalmist, likely had in mind pagan idols, battlefield gore, the vanity of kings, and especially the lure of materialism. Our souls are darkened by exposure to those things that appeal to our lusts and pride, that distort the dignity of our fellow human being, that play to our fears without resolving them in grace, or that take our minds off of Christ.

 

David gave a simple solution: we cannot control everything in the world but we can control what happens in our home. He stressed integrity in the Christian home. A Christian home should reflect the Christian faith, perspectives, and priorities, that we love the Lord first and foremost. David would not “set anything godless” before his eyes, but the negative is not enough by itself, it is not enough just to not look at godless things: we must also consider godly matters. So elsewhere he completes his thoughts that he shall set before his eyes (and his other senses) those things that remind him of God, of holiness, of love, and of grace, and that he will meditate on the goodness of God.

 

Some of the most precious days of my personal spiritual growth were days where I took a Scripture and meditated on it all day, such as “He restores my soul,” letting that thought soak into my consciousness. The voice of God speaks to our hearts through His Spirit (Romans 8:16), actually within our spirits that have been brought to life through Christ. And focusing on the world can present a dangerous distraction in our path to maturity. To grow in grace, place your thoughts on Christ, on His love, in His word, and communicate with His Spirit.

 

Prayer:

 

Lord, let us meditate on You and on Your goodness and not be damaged or distracted by the godlessness in the world. Amen.

 

 

Christian Parenting, Evening Devotionals